SUFFERING = ''SAVING FACE''

SAVING FACE vs. TELLING the TRUTH!

2012-01-08T13:29:00.000-08:00

FEAR of BEING WRONG! - The ''STROKE'' GUY

2012-01-08T12:36:00.000-08:00

ENDING of SUFFERING thru UNDERSTANDING

2010-07-24T10:30:00.001-07:00

FOOD FOR THOUGHT...

2010-01-13T18:49:00.000-08:00

It Is ALL In YOUR MIND

2010-01-11T05:39:00.000-08:00

http://www.mediafire.com/?dzznjmzmquo
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---How you see things is very important. Check your level of ACCEPTANCE.

WHY IS THERE SUFFERING?

2006-04-01T23:47:00.000-08:00

CONSIDER THIS...

''If It's All About LOVE,
Why Do We SUFFER?''

---Love---
---The ''HIGHEST'' or Best communication is the communication of LOVE. It is the best of you. It can translate into ACCEPTANCE for you. It is the best one can do. But this still leaves much open to interpretation.
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---Understand This and You Are Understanding Much.

We are attached to things that help us to SAVE FACE.
We are worried about ''Looking Good,'' instead of ''BEING LOVING'' and ''Honest.''

---Understand this ''Bottom - Line'' truth, and you understand a lot. LOVE is a FACT. LOVE as a FACT, does NOT necessarily depend on the feeling you feel.
---We have many different ways that we ''think'' LOVE is. Through my own interpretation, I see LOVE is one where you, yourself, becomes an ''environment'' of self-expression for the ''other,'' person. ACCEPTANCE. He or she is free to express himself until he ''sees'' himself behind the different ''masks'' that he or she wears, being sure NO one is hurt in the process. He or she will see the LOVE that is there, as that is truly the ''fabric'' that makes us up.

We ALL Love One Another, We're Just Working On The Details.

---That is why when I say ''We ALL LOVE one another, we're just working out the details,'' is a true statement. It also happens to be my personal philosophy. ''The Kingdom IS Within'' and ''The Kingdom is LOVE.'' LOVE is the very core or source of who we are. LOVE is the very God that we seek. It is what we seek in ALL we do, BAR NOTHING. It may not seem it or even look like it, but this is what we do, ALL THE TIME.

We Suffer When We Hold On To Our False Sense of Self.
We Must Let Go and Grow

---One may ask, if this is so, then why ALL the SUFFERING? We SUFFER to the extent to which we are attached. If we find ourselves attached to our ''false''-self, our egoes, personalities, etc. [which, by the way is what we are], then a ''process'' of becoming ''detached'' from our ''false'' -selves must take place. We will find ourselves SUFFERING to the degree that we HOLD ON to our false sense of self. We experience the ''conflict'' that we are feeling as we are trying to HOLD on and LET-GO, at the same time. People SUFFER as they HOLD ON to their false sense of self. They try to LET-GO but it becomes difficult to do this if you are NOT SURE of the results. By this I mean, many people are really not sure they should LET-GO of what they are HOLDING ON to. They are not sure they are doing the ''right thing.'' They are not sure there is going to be anything in there if they LET-GO. It becomes a matter of FAITH, and a ''Process'' to get to know your ''Real-Self.''

Why are innocent children involved
Holding on to what we don't need - causes problems

---We may ask why are ''innocent'' children a part of this? In the Grand Scheme of Things, and through a Reincarnation, if you will, children do have their ''things,'' to, also, go through. We slough or ''boil'' off this false idea of who we are and and what we think LOVE is supposed to be. We become more of our True Selves, which is LOVE.
---Our perspective is very important. If we see the situation as LOVE, then things we DON'T need, just fall away. There is a problem when we try to HOLD ON, while things we don't need, fall away. We try to HOLD ON to things that time is telling us to give up and let go. In psychological terms, we are giving up personality defense mechanisms that we don't need anymore. It is really FEAR that holds this falseness, in place.

---The letting go is accomplished through LOVE, or we can see it as Suffering, depending on our ''perspective.'' If we truly LOVE, then the falseness just falls away. If we HOLD on to our FALSENESS, then it is seemingly ''Ripped'' away, and a SUFFERING prevales. As we learn to ''let-go,'' [become more OBJECTIVE], this ''SUFFERING'' becomes less and less. Be Well.
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''We SUFFER When We Are Holding On, Instead Of Letting-Go.''
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RAM DASS on Suffering.

Life Is Like A Cup of Coffee - Inspirational Video Movie

2006-03-29T22:07:00.000-08:00

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---Source of stress is competing and comparing yourself to others

Good Advice From BOBBY DARLING

2006-03-28T16:11:00.000-08:00

Suggestions From Bobby Darling -

---Bobby is NO stranger to esoteric thought. Maybe you will, for-the-final-time, see how you're the cause of your own suffering, and let-it-go. You can change your life around by some intelligent ''tweaking,'' here and there. IMAGINATION!!

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http://bobbydarling.com/Audio/Great_Big_World.mp3

HEALTHY -- ''Big Picture''

2006-03-27T23:19:00.000-08:00

CONSIDER THIS...
The ''PSYCHOSOMATIC'' Component

---I believe that thought and what we ''think,'' is at the core of a lot we find wrong with ourselves. It isn't like the hypochondriac who reads his own symptoms and decides that he has ''this'' or ''that.'' It goes to the next level where ''thinking'' negative thoughts doesn't help the illness one bit.
---Ralph Waldo Emerson said, ''We are what we think all day long.'' If we keep so much negative energy coming into the system, it can't be good. The reason I say this is that the system responds positively to positive stimulus. Keep it a positive experience. Negativity goes ''against the grain.''
---If we have an attitude of ''goodwill'' for ALL. If we want the ''best'' for everyone, if we are concerned with making a positive mark on our neighbor and the world, we are also making a positive mark on ourselves. This is the repercussions of doing ''good-type works'' and having ''good thoughts.'' You find that you stay positive, and find ''yourself'' unfolding.
---We die daily this way. Eventually, we see the ''Big PIcture.'' We see that being positive really is the way to be. You ''feel'' better and ''are'' better. When you have a ''fun'' outlook, you ''are'' happier. To a trained professional, the simplicity of what I say may sound like ''wishful'' thinking, but the latest liturature bears this out. Look at the havoc that ''stress'' wreaks.
---When we have a ''Big Picture'' that is Healthy, Non-judgmental and Positive, we are, for all-intents-and-purposes, ready for just about anything. We enjoy waking up in the morning. We are all set to begin the day. We even look forward to the challenges that Life has in store for us. We don't have to seek them out, they will find us if we have some business to do, today.
---Enjoy the day the ''best'' you can. Use your head and common sense. It really doesn't make sense not to. Be sure someone else has a good day, too. Don't be petty. Open up. Show the world it is ALL good. DO the ''best'' you can. Be Well.

It's a, ''Great Big World.'' Thanks, Bobby D.

WHY DO PEOPLE SUFFER?

2006-03-26T21:02:00.000-08:00

CONSIDER THIS...
''WHY DO PEOPLE SUFFER?''

(L ong Version)

---People Suffer to the extent they are attached. This is a statement Buddha made, in one of His teachings, many years ago. Let's look at this more closely. What are people attached to?
---We see people attached to their ''idea'' of who they are and don't seem to go too far beyond that. We see people much into their own ''Self-image,'' instead of seeing who they are. They spend much time competing and comparing themselves to others, checking how they are doing. The Truth of the matter is that that is where most people stop. People seem satisfied with this. What they don't really seek is what may be possible for them.

---Believe in Yourself, Enough, To Take-A-Chance on...Yourself.
---People easily become complacent, and taking a risk, or exploring is ''someone elses job,'' and not mine. The fact is that people become hum-drum, and get used to it. Somehow, they call this ''Living.'' Anyone saying unlimited potential and possibilities, is laughed at almost before they start.
---One has to exercise ones ability to access the Love Energy that is within. One has to get to know what ''IT'' is and one's particular Relationship to ''IT.'' One discovers himself and where and what is his interest. Everyone is different, so my interests may not be yours. We prefer different things, resonate differently and we understand how ''another mans meat can be another mans poison.'' As it says.''we have the same emotions over different things.''

---The ''Trick'' To It All Is To Find What You Enjoy.
---The trick to it all is to find what you enjoy doing and do it. Here we see the problem to be in the discovering what one likes or enjoys. It doesn't usually jump out at you unless you know how to discover how you ''feel'' in the first place. This comes down to actually telling yourself how you ''Honestly'' feel about things. Until one gets the hang of this, it will probably be depraved and despicable. Do NOT act on it, but be honest. Eventually you will feel your ''sea legs'' growing and be much stronger and more comfortable because of it. Remember, we should NOT act on these things. We are letting the ''mud'' we have churned up, become settled. We then, after a time, can see clearly and then it will be time to express what you may have learned. You have given yourself time to ''embody'' this newness.
---When one does what he truly likes to do, one unfolds naturally. The object of affection does pretty well, also. One knows when it is time to move on. If one is attached to doing ''good'' things to make himself look better, do thIngs of the EGO so as to impress others, he will find himself pretty empty and real happiness will elude him. This is the way we are attached to things of the EGO. We suffer as we try to live with these circumstances.

---Suffering is Boredom and Complacency.
---The Suffering comes in the boredom and complacency and frustration. Yes, this is a suffering. We are not very energetic or enthusiastic, but we should be. I mean that we lack the ability to access the passion within. It is there, but we don't know how to and we don't really utilize it. When we spend it or express it, it is sometimes very negatively and guiltily, and it conflicts with many shoulds and shouldn'ts, so instead of clearly expressing what is within, it sounds like some kind of ''confusion.''
---Getting to know how we feel about things increases our awareness of the self. It helps us deal with the ''Stranger in a strange land'' kind of feeling. It increases our ability to spend time alone, without having to deal with a nagging loneliness. We understand what is meant by the phrase, ''Making friends with yourself.'' It all begins by knowing how we feel.
---In our society, their seem to be many who don't know how they ''feel'' about things. Guys, in particular, seem to have trouble knowing or showing how
they feel. From day one, we, guys, learn how not to show any emotion and to keep it ALL inside. This isn't very healthy as it ''eats at us from within.''
---Women, who statistically outlive guys on the other hand, don't seem to have as much of a hard time with this. They can be emotional wrecks, but generally they ''get it out.'' I realize that stereotypes come into play, and I am also aware of what I have previously written.
---The Male-side of the brain seems to be the ''Left,'' and the Female-side seems to be the ''Right.'' When the two are in ''harmony,'' we have an as-it-should-be situation, that is very ''peaceful.'' Things unfold deliberately and easily, with NO worry or guilt. Life happens ''as-it-should.'' the ''suffering'' is non-existent, and we ''feel'' free to enjoy.
---Until this is Realized and Embodied, we Love imperfectly, as it were, with ALL the jealousies, prides, etc., that go along with the ''Human'' psyche. These are the ''imperfections'' we contend with. These are the things that make up our self-image, and somehow we think that they are so important that we HOLD-ON to them as they are falling away, SUFFERING in the process. As we grow and mature into the understanding of ''How Love Works,'' we don't HOLD-ON as tightly and SUFFER less and less. Be Well.

.'''To Cheer Yourself - up, Cheer Someone Else up.'' -

Mark Twain.

'Don't Be Afraid To Make Mistakes: Trial and Error Seems The Way We Learn.''

FINDING: ''Your Own Voice''

2006-03-24T07:42:00.000-08:00

THREE OF ME...
''Telling Yourself TRUTH''
---Becomes Habit, HONEST---

---One finds his own voice by telling the truth to himself. It is that simple. What if you don't know the truth, what does one do then?
---One tells himself the truth about how he feels. He tells himself how he feels about things. But to find his own voice, it must be the ''truth.'' You can't fool your true feelings. This is how one finds his own voice. Until then, even without knowing it, you are telling us someone else's opinion. It is someone else's truth. It belongs to someone else. You have yet to make it your own. You can ''feel'' like someone else, but until you ''embody'' it, it is not yet yours. It is not yet true for you.
---A point of confusion can be that there are personal, relative truths and Truths we share. A personal truth could be, ''I like to eat vegetables with my fish.'' It is more in the preference category. A Truth we share could be, ''It is about Love and Forgiveness.'' Get to know the difference. One's own voice has conviction and you don't hear the doubt. It does happen that the more one tells the truth to oneself, that it does become more and more habit-forming.
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---Know Yourself---
---A Word of Caution: Get to know ''Yourself'' and how you feel about things, FIRST. ''Don't'' start by telling everyone ''how you feel about everything.'' You will probably hurt a lot of feelings and you will just be ''shooting your mouth off.'' Communicate Honest things about You and NOT Them. If the fact is that you want to ''BLAME'' someone for your situaion, it is really Your fault and not theirs, anyway. This will be clearer, eventually.
---This is what I have noticed. If you are saying things that are true and
true for you and how you feel, it does not matter where they came from, as long as they are true for you. One's voice actually improves and has more conviction. As the song goes, ''The Nearer your Destination, the More you Slip Slide Away.'' Each time you get closer and closer to the truth. Eventually, you begin ''Speaking the Truth'' and It pulls you along with It. You have then found ''Your Own Voice''- and that is the goal. Be Well.

''You Find Your Own Voice By Telling Yourself How You Feel About Things.''

MINDFREAKED!!

2006-03-23T16:25:00.000-08:00

MINDFREAKED
CRISS ANGEL

---I went to YouTube, where I have gone many times before. I had been recently finding that many things of my past, have now made it to there.
---The philosophers of our time have been a focus. Then, some ROCK N’ ROLL songs. There has been quite a treasure trove.
---I then typed in a name I had heard, just to see if anything would happen. That is how I had found the Criss Angel vids.
---I saw Criss float between two buildings. I saw Criss walk on water. I saw other astounding things. I am NOT kidding I am Mindfreaked.
---I have NO idea how some of these stunts were done. I will not attempt to explain any of that, because I do not know. But I think I get why the word, ‘’MINDFREAK,’’ was chosen.
---There is a quality that I experienced that is supposed to be like a Zen Koan. My mind could NOT understand these vids. I tried to wrap my mind around the vids, every which way, and they were always ‘’beyond’’ me.
---I could go on and on, with how the vids impacted me. They may ALL be smoke and mirrors. I don’t HONESTLY know, how some of these were done. MINDFREAKED.
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Over Time, I Think I Know How Some Of What He Did, Was Done. Even So, My Hat Is Off For Him. These Are GREAT!!

''ADDICTION'' - The PIAS

2006-03-22T22:57:00.000-08:00

CONSIDER THIS...
POISON IVY ANALOGY-SYNDROME

---It is my contention that we are ALL more or less in the throws of this, Poison Ivy Analogy Syndrome. Let me explain. Something we can all relate to is Poison Ivy and how it works. We come into contact with the plant and if allergic, as many of us are, we have a reaction, a breakout, that is very ''itchy.'' We are told immediately ''Not to Scratch.'' The reasoning for this is simple, if we scratch it, it spreads. No matter how much it itches, we are encouraged not to scratch. We are very contagious, and everything we touch we seem to give it to. The more we Scratch, the more it Spreads on ourselves AND others.
---Now, logically, the Human Mind says this, ''If it itches, we scratch.'' We know why this is NOT a good idea. So we ''suck'' it up, and put up with a certain amount of discomfort. I'm not going to speak of the lotions or anything, but if WE DO NOT Scratch, it ''usually'' goes away.
---There are many ways in which we are Scratching and Spreading, without even knowing it. When we continue to do anything that gives us a pleasurable sensation, to an excess, we create this syndrome. We then try to recreate a past experience and we are therefore ''Living in the Past.'' In this process, we are creating an ''Addiction.''
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---Scratching It, Spreads It---
---The ''Eagles'' said it very well in the song ''Desperado.'' ''The things that are pleasing you, can hurt you somehow.'' This is how the Addiction is born. When we attempt to fill the ''emptiness'' within us, we can easily become dependent on the ''tool'' used. We really believe that the ''tool'' is going to ''recreate'' this situation, a pleasurable sensation, and ''we go from there.'' I think that somehow, we actually believe that, it is going to LAST, too. We ALL know that the first few times that, maybe, we come close to the first experience, but after that it is usually-All Down Hill. We become De-sensitized and we have to have ''enormous'' amounts of the same thing to recreate any ''real experience,'' AT ALL.
---''There is Nothing Good or Bad within itself, but only our Thinking that makes it so.'' Shakespeare is credited for this. This is True, and we can apply it as such-As we start thinking about doing something again and again because it was in someway ''mind-blowing,'' we are Scratching our Itch. We know from the Poison Ivy Analogy that this only Spreads it and is not the way to Stop it. Doing things Once or even ''once in awhile'' is not the problem. It is in the ''thinking'' that we can re-create a situation and then excess comes into play. We ''think'' that if we scratch the ''itch,'' [what?- enough,] it will go away. It doesn't. We lose control in the process, and become addicted. ''Everything in Moderation, Including Moderation, itself.''
---When we stay in the Middle, within our own boundaries, we have no problem. When we Excede this, we are off and running into another addiction. It doesn't have to be tobacco, alcohol, sex, food [anything we use to drug ourselves so we don't have to face-up to something] or any of the ''big'' ones. Or even ''drugs,'' themselves.
---We can be addicted to a life-style or a Mindset and Belief system that causes a short-term effect, also. We are not Free within this. We stay in our foggy old notions and concepts, where we feel safe, and don't allow our thought to ''Be Free and Go Quiet.'' When the Mind and Desire is quiet, than we can see what Love is, and Knowing Ourself becomes much easier. Being addicted to something is not an ''easy'' situation to contend with, but it ''is'' possible. Get help if you need to. It is ''worth'' being free. Be Well.
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The CHLOE GROUP - ''ADDICTION'' [Click Link]
http://considerthiscat.blogspot.com

FOOD FOR THOUGHT...

2006-03-22T22:47:00.000-08:00

The ''CHRISTMAS'' Story

2005-08-11T22:00:00.000-07:00

MANGER and the ''TRUE'' MEANING Of -
''NO Room at the INN.''

---We have before us a very well known story, the Christmas Story. We all know it as it is written. Mary on the donkey led by Joseph, ready to give birth to Jesus. They go to the Inn, but are turned away as there is ''No Room.'' The Birth takes place in a ''Manger.''
---We want to look at this from a Spiritual Perspective. We can see it this way-The Manger can be our Mind and Heart when a starkness prevales. The Christ or the Truth, can not be born in a place that is ''filled'', such as was the Inn.
---We must have our Minds and Hearts to be 'like' the Manger, Empty and Ready.Then and only then can the Truth be Born. If our Minds and Hearts have 'No Room'',then it will not Happen there, as at the Inn.
---Our Minds and Hearts are ''filled'' with things of the Ego- desires, competition, comparisons to others [which gives everything a Me vs.Them feel.] We must be 'free' of all that. We must be Not filled or Empty to have Room-and then the Truth will come into Being. It will take shape within and work with you [as you are] and set ''you'' Right.
---Depending on where you are at, there you will start. It [Life] begins to make
sense. You 'Understand.' This is The Awakening. This is ''To Be Born Again.''
---If One is not ready it will not occur. As we said on another occasion that one needs an 'ego' to give one up. If One is just doing ''this'' as to avoid ''himself'' he has missed the point. One has the trials one has, for a reason. They are there as a 'learning.' What goes around indeed comes around, and we have set into motion things that must be dealt with. This is the law of Karma.
---A mindset of Eros will only lead back to Itself. It is, once again, the Ego. I am speaking of Eros in its broadest form. We are looking for the Agape Mind. That Mind is ''OTHER'' oriented.
---The Quiet Mind, Loves without prejudice. The Mind that isn't ''littered'' with things of subjective thought. It functions best as a quiet tool that just ''observes'' Life. The OBJECTIVE MIND with ESOTERIC THOUGHT. It then sees ''Rightly.'' It then knows only Love.
(This Was Written in Aug., 2004)

NOT Being Owned by Own ''STUFF''

2004-10-10T07:51:00.000-07:00

CONSIDER THIS...
PSYCHOLOGICAL FREEDOM -
Getting RID Of
Own ''STUFF''

---I had a good friend whose situation or Life wasn't working for him. I think he read somewhere that a way to Spiritual Enlightenment was to give up all ''worldly possessions.'' Spiritual Enlightenment was a new ''avenue'' for him- trying new things was not. So he decided to ''get rid of his stuff.''
---He picked his friends as recipients for his ''things.'' What he had was very little anyway, so the actual dispersal was not a long drawn out process. Basically, he had a TV, a stereo, some records. He had sold his guitar to me a few years earlier. He would still visit those of us to whom he had given his stuff, but I always felt an obligation to ''offer'' it back during the course of the evening.
---He longed for something to fill the void left by the stuff. You saw a wearing down of his physical self and a rise in his beer consumption. Of course the two go hand-in-hand, but you could now see there was something he cared about no longer in his situation. Well, what was missing was his ''stuff.'' These were things ''he'' used as Creative Self-Expression. He gave them away, BUT NEVER DID. Part of himself still ''identified'' with these things. Truly, he really didn't seem ready to ''give-up'' his stuff. It seemed more ''necessary'' to hold on and learn more from his instruments of Self-Expressionism.
---What should we learn here? Be Where you are at and be Honest about it. This is not the real way to give things up.
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---Be Honest, To Be FREE, Psychologically---
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---To be free of something and still have it in our presence is like understanding ''to be in it, but not of it.'' It is also the understanding of, to ''Love something, we let it go.'' We can be psychologically free of our possessions and not be possessed by them. The attachment-detachment situation. If something affords us the luxury of Creative Self-Expression, then we have a Love Relationship with it and to it, and this ''thing'' has importance. It has value. We find we may not be through with it even if we do ''give it away.''
---Desire does not become a ''problem'' when we have a Love-Relationship. It is a Right Relationship. It is Creative Self-Expression. When it becomes ''not that'' is when the trouble starts. We then find ourselves dependent and not free of our things and really find we are possessed by our possessions. Our ''stuff'' owns ''us.'' We notice a weight in its presence and a weight in the trying to give it away. We still have ''issues'' with it, and in a sense have more to ''learn'' or ''unlearn'' from it. We have a Relationship to it or what it represents and it will live on until we bring the Relationship to Fulfillment. ''What we resist, persists.'' Be Well.

Ask Yourself If: ''What We Are Holding On To, Is Worth Holding On To?''

MARRIAGE

2004-10-03T20:42:00.000-07:00

CONSIDER THIS...
''One With''

---When we are married to someone or something, we are ''One With'' that which we marry. It does not mean a big, elaborate ceremony necessarily, but does not ''exclude'' this either. We are ''Married to'' things we Love which means things which we are ''One With.'' Things we have a ''Union'' with.
---The most traditional form is two loving people who get together to start a
family,etc.. They are each others' spouse and through loving communication produce children or not. In this way they are ''One With'' each other. They may spend their whole life together. Here we are speaking of other kinds of bonds.
---We have heard of people being ''Married'' to their jobs. Married to a particular ''life-style,'' etc. When One ''Loves'' what One does, or is doing, then One finds oneself ''married'' to it. This is just NOT some sort of game of semantics, but a very real situation.
---It brings up the ''situation'' of Loving that with which One becomes involved. It is a very fundamental thing. When we Love what we do, then we do it Well. We care about It. We are in unity with that which we Love. We want it to ''shine'' in the ''best'' light possible.
---Doing what One Loves developes and strengthens the love in Ourselves. Remember, this is important, Love doesn't need strengthening, but our Relationship to It that improves. Love is timeless and eternal. Love is God. It is, was and always doing okay. It is our relationship to It that we work on.
---We ALL have people or situations that ''Call'' us to the best of ourselves. These we should explore. We should NOT take these lightly. We grow in these relationships. At times, also, One may find Oneself batting heads against a particular obstacle. A difficulty. A difficulty, yes, but somehow unDenialable. You intuitively know that ''doing battle'' in this arena will reap benefits. It says somewhere that these are our ''greatest'' teachers. Since we don't live in an Ideal setting [as Ideal as we see it to be], these may crop up quite often. Of course
they ''teach'' us that we may still have more to do in our ''Learning.'' Be Well.

CELIBACY- Why?

2004-09-24T20:49:00.000-07:00

CONSIDER THIS...
Not Just A CRAZY Idea

---This is something I touched upon in the essay called, 'NAKEDness.' It follows quite logically. Instead of the usual 'physical-sexual' response, we have basically
the same dynamic of the 'Two begetting a Third.' Again, we have Honest Communication that enhances Relationship which is their 'child'.
---We then see that it is the Energy we use to communicate sexually
that we can instead use to commune in a 'Platontic' manner. Two 'communicate' to create a Third and the more Love involved makes ALL Three tend to become ONE. Love, without a doubt, is what makes any sense of this. Instead of 'Creating' a new member of Society, we are more 'Creative' in all aspects of Life. In a Love Relationship we can see this. Two grow together using some combination of both ways we ''make-love,'' and their ''offspring'' is LOVE, whether it be an actual baby or not.
---Why then Celibacy? Some are more able to do this than others. Some find ''themselves,'' and the highest and truest of who they are, in this ''Platonic'' or Agape way. The ''Closeness'' is acheived in their Relationship with their ownself and with ALL others. We know that through Creativity, God is Love. It is ALL about Love. If we see more Objectively than Subjectively, this makes more sense. The Object of Relationship is to become more Loving, whether Celibate or not.
---This presents a ''problem'' that I see. This also invokes the Peter Principle, if you will. It is a piece of wisdom seen by Laurence Peter in the 60's and 70's. In a nutshell and paraphrased this way- We have the wrong people doing the wrong jobs. Instead of doing what comes Naturally, they don't reach their ''potential'' and do other things. I think a lot of people are being celibate who would fare better in an intimate relationship. The converse is, also, true. There are many in relationship with others who seem to only create Negativity instead of Love. In an Ideal Setting, this wouldn't happen. Honest Communication would create Love. But as we are, we sometimes involve ourselves in situations that seem detrimental and don't observe Honesty too closely. It is important to be true to Your Heart and Self. I guess this is how we learn.
---The Sexual Energy and the Spiritual Energy are the SAME Energy. It is a directional thing and how we utilize it. As I said above, some do better with one
over the other. We resonate differerently. It is NOT some insane notion. Love is the Key. Be Well.

SELF-ACCEPTANCE

2004-08-15T20:06:00.000-07:00

CONSIDER THIS...
SELF-ACCEPTANCE Is

Still IMPORTANT

---Why is it important that we are fully the ''person'' we were born to be, to reach our full potential, etc.? We ALL have extraordinary abilities and can acheive beyond our wildest dreams. Why does this seem so ludicrous to most of us that to even allow oneself to think along these lines seem outlandish? Why is it so easy to settle?
---Life is a ''process'' of Self-Discovery. We go from one experience to another and ''hopefully'' we learn lessons along the way. We ''pay-our-dues'' in this way, and accumulate Knowledge and Understanding of The-Way-It-Is. As we go, our Understanding begins to ''kick-in' and we seem to ''get it,'' and there is a ''sense'' to It. The Chaos has some kind of Order. We understand what the term ''God'' designates, and we can go beyond the limits of those who have been our teachers. We see that The Kingdom is Truly Within, and this is what we have been seeking ''outside'' of ourselves. To find God within is what Jesus was saying. Since, God and Love are the same, we are saying that Love is within. Christian terminology becomes the ‘’vernacular’’ used.
---The ''Prophets'' of Old knew that Self-Knowledge was and is the key to this thing called ''Living.'' ''Know Yourself and You will Know God.'' What you will Know is that ''It'' or ''He'' is truly Love. You only ''Know'' Love in letting-go to how ''He'' or ''It'' works. That is why we say ''Thy Will Be Done.'' Life is very ''Good'' if we relate in this way. We are then more ‘’’OBJECTIVE.’’
---When we understand it is ALL about ''Love,'' and our ''job'' is to Love, things get simpler. We Love from where we are and interact in this way. ALL persons are a venue for this. This is the meaning of Agape as opposed to Eros. We Love the ''many'' instead of singuling out one as an object of our Love. This can be a confusion, in this way. Instead of a Me vs.Them duality, it is more, we are ALL in this together. What happens to the one, happens to the many. Love Unifies. It makes ALL One.
---Self-Acceptance is to Accept our ''Godness'' Within. It is to ACCEPT the Love that is ‘’Within.’’ GOD then is the Love that exists within ALL. Jesus KNEW this. His whole ''Ministry'' was about this. LOVE. As we grow in Love, we do the same thing. Read further of what I have written on the Cross, Death and Resurrection. Make it personal as your ''own'' journey, and you will see it clearly. Jesus reveals you to you, as it were. You will see what has been said ''above,'' clearly. Nobody has a ''corner-on-the-market,'' and as we grow in Love, we understand more. Eventually, we ''get'' It. We see that Christianity can be more of a vernacular, than it is a religion. ‘’A Rose Is Still A Rose-‘’ Shakespeare. Be Well.
SELF - ACCEPTANCE is VERY IMPORTANT -No Matter What The Ternminolgy

Cross, Death, and Resurrection

2004-08-10T22:30:00.004-07:00

CONSIDER THIS...
''This Can APPLY, Now, If You LOVE?''

---The Cross, The Death , and the Resurrection are very practical in our daily lives. It can be seen this way.The cross we bear, so to speak, is living as we ''think'' we are or should be, as opposed to who in reality we really are without all the ''thinking.'' It is very much a burden to our minds and our selves to be living this way, though many, many people spend their time like this. Our egos run the show. We are so busy competing and comparing ourselves with everyone else, that we don't know who or what we really are. We get lost in the shuffle somehow.
---The Death we experience is one, then, of the ego. It is a great tool, but is a situation we deal with as we live our lives. We grow as our ego diminishes, but it is a process. This is also a Spiritual Truth and I think it is very important. The death we experience is an ego-death and a lettlng go of the things of the ego. In other words, the thing that we usually call our self diminishes as we grow into our godness or Christness. We transform as we go. We become what we truly are, our Spiritual self or Self. In this way we stop ''interfering'' with the ''Natural'' process of Life which is DEATH to LIFE. An acorn dies to become an oak tree. In this way we live more fully.
---We next move into the Resurrection phase. It is when we live our lives free, free of the constraints of the ego. This is what Jesus meant when he said that ourself diminishes as the Christ grows larger in our lives. The Kingdom Of LOVE iS ''truly'' Within. Be Well.

The SECOND COMING

2004-08-09T18:16:00.000-07:00

CONSIDER THIS...
CHRIST, WITHIN?
Weren't We Taught This?

---We must look VERY carefully at this because there is a good chance that readers will jump to conclusions and close up VERY tightly. I have noticed that when One speaks of Jesus Christ, people conjure up many, many responses.
---I will begin this way; Jesus was the Son of God. He said-The Kingdom is Within. He said, ''Ye Shall Be Gods.'' ''Ye of little Faith.'' ''Pick up your Cross and Follow Me.'' ''You decrease as the Christ increases within you.'' There are very many references to this sameness-The Christ is Within [EVERYONE.] I am talking from a Christian Perspective. The TRUTH is Within no matter what perspective one has.
---The Christ, the Kingdom, Love, God, Life, etc., are ALL synonyms. They refer to the same Condition, Situation etc. which is the Unconditional, the Eternal, Heaven etc., which is also the Christ. The Christ is Within and we ALL have access to THIS as Jesus did. Jesus Realized This. His Christness. He demonstrated God in ALL that He did.
---The Christ is Within. The Kingdom is Within. Love comes from Within. Our true nature is the Christ. We are ALL Sons of God, or collectively, the SON OF GOD. We all make up the Body of Christ.
---As we wrote earlier, our egos, our selves prevent us from knowing this. Our concern is on ourselves, us etc., instead of the Big Picture. We are part of the Whole while the Whole is making us One with Itself. How we mixed this up, I do not exactly know, but we did. It is ALL a process of Love. God is Love.
---The Second Coming is our Realization of the Christ WITHIN, As did JESUS. This is very theological, but this is just semantics compared to the message. LOVE. As GOD is Everywhere we see Him Everywhere. He is ALL in ALL, so we see HIM in ALL things. Since God is Love, we be loving and LOVE. It is ALL about LOVE.
---We have somehow projected personalities on all this and it all becomes some kind of consumate projection of ourself. It becomes as we imagine it all to be. We somehow Fantasize all of this, instead seeing the Reality of This. I think that ''De-personaliti-atizing'' the Whole Thing is a good place to start. Accept the dance as it IS instead of projecting it as something that IT IS NOT. Be Well.
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[When We Love, We ACCEPT That Which Is Loved, Unconditionally, AS IS.]

BLOG Contents:

2004-08-07T22:17:00.000-07:00

BLOG: CONTENTS:

POSITIVE STUFF-
1. LOVE ''Shines'' - Like the Sun
2. LIVING: ''Just a Transformation''
3. We're ALL Evolving Into LOVE,
Just Ask My CAT
4. The ''PROVERB''
5. Exercise for the MIND
6. AFFIRMATION
7. BEGINNERS MINDSET
8. DEAR WORLD,
9. RELATIONSHIPS - ''Do Unto Others'' - revisited
10. QUOTES - Names You May ''RECOGNIZE''

CONSIDER THIS...
1. WAR: What Is It Good For?
2. Appreciation: The Therapeutic Process
3. To Be Where You're At When You're There
4. Appreciation: The Glue of Relationship
5. ''A'' or ''The''
6. We All Respond To Something
7. We All LOVE One Another...
8. The ''Go To'' Person
9. To IMPROVE Relations

METAPHYSICS
1. Why Is There Suffering?
2. ''ADDICTION'' - The PIAS
3. HEALTHY - ''Big Picture''
4. FINDING : ''YOUR OWN VOICE''
5. Getting RID Of Our STUFF
6. BEST MEDICINE
7. MARRIAGE
8. CELIBACY - Why?
9. Self - Acceptance
10. Cross, Death and Ressurection
11. SECOND COMING

The ''REAL'' F - word FRUSTRATION
1. HONEST COMMUNICATION
''DELETES'' FRUSTRATION
2. LEVELS of COMMUNICATION - a poem
3. A FRUSTRATING CONTRADICTION
4. The FRUSTRATION QUIZ
5. If I Were Painting a Picture About The
LEVELS of FRUSTRATION
6. FRUSTRATION
7. Sherlock Holmes - joke
8. FRUSTRATION The ''REAL'' F - word
9. The FRUSTRATION ''FACTOR''
10. Why Are We So Frustrated?

BEING OBJECTIVE - good
1. The ''OBJECTIVE'' MIND
2. DEFINITIONs: From ''SUBJECTIVE''
to ''OBJECTIVE''
3. OBJECTIVE
4. The ''OBJECTIVE'' LANGUAGE
5. The Subjective - SELF
6. LIFE: a BATTLEFIELD or a PLAYGROUND?
7. Unmasking The ''OBJECTIVE - SELF''
8. Managing PAIN
9. ''BEYOND'' Pain
10. BOREDOM - A Recipe ''AGAINST''
11. THINKING BACK - The ''ROOT CANALS''

BIBLIOGRAPHY, etc.
1. The BOBBY DARLING Show
2. BOOKS I Have Read, etc.
3. BOBBYDARLING.COM
4. Websites - Intuition Network
5. Website - Old Time Radio
6. Website Favorite

BLOGGERYTHYMS
1. NAKEDness - A New Wrinkle
2. The ''INNER'' and ''OUTER''
3. OVERCOME FEAR with INTELLIGENCE
4. ''BEST'' Medicine - TRUTH
5. POLLY Goes To Psychiatrist --
Thinks ''CRACKERS''
6. Unlearning - [the old self - image, again]
7. The MIND As Empty As a ''MANGER''
8. ''BLAME'' does NOT Work
9. Self - ''Expression''
10. FIND YOUR ''OWN'' PACE

''BLOG, --- JAMES BLOG.''
1. Left-Hand Story - ''CONGENITAL''
2. Self - ''Discovery''
3. LOVE - Two Kinds
4. Left - Hand --''Situation''
5. Hole-In-One
6. BEYOND ''Anger'' and ''Depression'' -
A Possibility
7. PSYCHOLOGY - ''Adequacy Concerns''
8. ''TIME'' and ''ASSUME''
9. AXIS - EGO
10. It Is ALL ''INSIDE'' - a poem

POEMS, QUOTES and STUFF!
1. HOW to KNOW SOMEONE!! - a poem
2. ADDICTION - a poem
3. ADULT BOOKS - a poem
4. ACCEPTANCEVILLE, USA - a poem
5. PERSPECTIVES - a poem
6. CLICHES R US - a poem
7. QUOTES - PAH
8. LAW: Letter or Spirit - a poem
9. BOREDOM: Against - a poem
10. WHEELCHAIRS - ''The TRILOGY'' - poems
11. April Fools Day, Anyway!!
12. A Musing - a poem
13. SALUTATIONS from the... HELP!!
14. The THUNDER of SILENCE - a poem
15. FIND YOUR OWN VOICE - a poem
16. ODE TO ''RESPECT'' - a poem
17. GOOD THOUGHT - ''RELATIONSHIP''
18. QUOTES - 4 more
19. SOUNDS LIKE A PLAN - a poem
20. Hospital Time - a poem
21. A ''Good Laugh'' - a poem
22. Where's The HOLY? - a poem

Meaning of Life -
1. Meaning of Life - To LOVE
Appreciation - a poem
2. The ''EXPERIENCE'' Itself
3. The - ''ICEBERGs''
4. ''JUDGMENT''
5. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
6. Honest COMMUNICATION - a poem
7. The HOUSE with FAULTY WIRING